Posted on | February 3, 2011 | 10 Comments
Probably hundreds. I started paying attention to how often I say it and think it, and I lost count.
It makes sense that we use “I am,” so much. We process the whole world through it. And there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, being aware of and honoring our “I am” is essential to a happy life. I made being true to the ME of “I am” my only resolution for 2011.
The words, “I am” are far more than words. They’re a form of power. And if you’re not using them correctly, you could be causing yourself great harm.
The Energy Of Your “I am”
Think for a moment about what you’re doing when you say, “I am.”
When you say, either aloud or to yourself, “I am,” you’re activating your point of creation, your divine energy. You’re defining yourself and declaring yourself.
Words are energy, and these two little words have their own special energy. They have a vibration just like all words have vibration, but because of their connection to your core, that vibration has more power than your garden variety words like “the cow” or “pink hippo” or “bungee cord.”
“I am” is connected to the essence of you. The words are almost like a verbal umbilical cord. Every time you say “I am,” you’re basically creating yourself anew. You’re sending out a vibration to the universe that says, “Read my energy THIS way,” and the universe responds. So do other people.
A Verbal Sandwich Board
In addition to creating yourself for the universe, you’re doing it for people too. Every “I am” that you state aloud to someone is slapping a sign on you as if you’ve just donned a sandwich board.
A few days ago, about a half hour after we got up, I was getting ready to leave the house to take Ducky to the forest for our morning walk. Tim went into the utility room (which leads to the garage) with me, and he glanced down at a couple pieces of clothing on the washer and said, “I need to wash these.” He picked them up, looked at them, then just stood there blocking my way.
I said, “Yes, so? You’re not going to do it now, so could you move, please?”
As he stepped back, he said, “Sorry, I am not awake yet.”
And indeed, he was doing a fine impression of a sleepwalker.
I immediately had a little mental shift. I instantly saw him as a half-asleep man not worth conversing with. Anything that I’d thought to say to him went right out of my mind. He had just defined himself for me. He wasn’t fully awake. That was his “I am.”
Was it what he wanted to be? Not awake?
No. He wanted to be alert. But his “I am” in that moment was “not awake.” It was actually an extension of an “I am” he uses often: “I am not a morning person.” I’ve used that one myself.
As soon as Tim defined himself, I reacted to the definition. People do this all the time, totally unconsciously. You say, “I’m depressed,” and the other person sees you as depressed. You say, “I’m jazzed,” and the other person sees you as positive and upbeat.
Of course, we can ignore people’s “I am” statements, and if the statements are negative, we do people a service if we do ignore them. But if we’re not conscious, it’s easy to buy into how people define themselves. And most of the time, we’re not all that conscious. So when you say, “I am,” people accept that point of creation.
Saying “I am” to yourself or someone is sort of like placing an order with the universe or with those around you. Your “I am” summons to you its match. People treat you in ways that match your “I am,” and the universe brings you experiences that match your “I am.”
So what are you ordering with your “I am?” Here are some the things I hear routinely ordered by people I encounter:
- fed up.”
- worn out.”
- not feeling well.”
- in debt.”
- running out of time.”
- sick and tired of ________.”
- freaked out.”
- convinced it won’t work out.”
- giving up.”
- not sleeping well.”
- eating too much.”
- so fat.”
- having a bad hair day.”
- at the end of my rope.”
- feeling lousy.”
Think for a second about what these sorts of energetic sandwich boards create. Feel the low, listless vibration of all that?
Now check out these “I ams”:
- having a great day.”
- so excited.”
- revved up.”
- figuring this out.”
- loving life.”
- enjoying my work.”
- full of great ideas.”
- thrilled to have this opportunity.”
- at peace.”
- sure everything is working out perfectly.”
- a force to be reckoned with.”
- feeling good.”
Ahhhh. Feel the difference in the vibe?
“I am” is sort of like a decree. It’s like you’re the magistrate of your life, and all day long, you hand out these decrees. These decrees direct the way things are going to go for you.
So what kind of decrees are you handing out?
Proper Use And Care Of Your “I am”
If you haven’t been conscious of how you’re using your “I am,” here’s how you can do it:
1. Listen for “I am.”
For a few days, just notice your “I am” statements. What are you saying about yourself? You don’t need to change what you’re saying. Just be aware.
2. Write down your “I am” statements.
After a couple days, start jotting down your “I am” statements. Make a list of how you’re defining yourself to yourself and others.
3. Visualize yourself wearing a sandwich board that has printed on it everything that your “I am” statements proclaim.
Imagine listing all your “I am statements on a chalk sandwich board and hanging it around your neck. If you’ve been using lots of negative “I am” statements, this visual will get your attention. Who wants to walk around with a sandwich board that says, tired, feeling sick, overwhelmed, frustrated, unsure, confused, etc.?
4. Set an intention to use positive “I am” statements.
If you’ve done steps one through three, you’ve become attuned to hearing it when you say or think, “I am.” So now you can begin consciously choosing positive declarations. I suggest choosing a Go To “I am” statement, one you get so used to saying that it just flows out of you with practically no thought. Mine is “I am getting better and better.” I started with that one because when I first noticed my negative “I am”s, I wasn’t ready to say, “I am feeling good” all the time. Now that is one I use quite often.
Every time you hand out an energized, positive “I am” Decree, you in essence power up. And not just in a metaphysical, the-universe-responds-to-your-energy sort of way. You power up your confidence and your abilities too. You power up your life.
So how about it? Are you aware of how you’re using your “I am”? How are you using it? Do you use it to lift up yourself and others? Or do you use it mindlessly, in a way that’s draining your life of vibrancy?